...then PLEASE don't say anything at all!!! The last thing a pregnant woman wants to hear is, "Wow, you're huge!", "You have that much time left? Are you really going to get bigger?", "You're baby must be really big!"
This is what I hear when I got out in public! It's making me want to stay home more. I hear it at church, at grocery stores, and at the Post Office. Speaking of the Post Office, I got stuck in line for 45 MINUTES next to a lady that wouldn't stop talking about how huge I was. I was about ready to say, "Now, let's spend the next 45 minutes talking about your weight. In a few weeks, some of mine will be gone, but what are you going to do?" I don't have the guts to say anything and try to just shift the subject but it's really starting to wear on me! I especially dont' like it when people rub my belly. What makes the lady at Lowe's think it's ok to rub my belly for 5 minutes while telling me the whole time that I'm huge? I dont' get it. I don't go around touching your belly, please don't touch mine!!!
And, I'm not huge by the way! I asked the doctor yesterday and I measure exactly average! Yes, I'm not small but I'm not tipping the charts people! What are you going to think in 10 weeks when I'm full term? That I look like a whale?!?! I do get a little bigger than some people because I'm so short and the baby can only go out!
Anyway, I know I look miserable because I often walk funny because my back is KILLING me this pregnancy. I can't walk very well without sharp pains running from my lower back and down both legs. Warm baths, stretching, etc. doesn't really help. I'm not supposed to lift Brianna and I try not to, but sometimes I just have to and it causes lots of pain and contractions. The poor girl goes around telling everyone "My mommy has owies on her back, she can't hold me!" And then usually asks if they'll hold her! I feel so bad! She's constantly blowing kisses to my back to help me feel better!!! She's been very sweet about it.
So, I'm 30 weeks! Only 10 weeks left! And sometimes that feels like forever! I've been having LOTS of contractions and they're starting to worry me a little. Last week at church I had contractions for the whole hour of Relief Society that got up to every 2-3 minutes apart. I don't think that they are productive, but this is very common for me lately. I've been having them every 5 minutes for an hour at a time some days. And other days it seems that I have 10-15 a day that are painful and they're usually close together. So, they did a test for preterm labor at my appointment and were supposed to call with the results yesterday and didn't! I'm hoping that means they found it was negative and didn't feel the need to call. Anyway, the test is supposed to say whether you might have the baby in the next 2 weeks! I need to go at least 7 more to be safe!!! And hopefully at least 9 more because Chad is super busy and then takes his huge PE test the week before I'm due. It's two 8 hour day tests and it would be horrible if he was taking the test while I was at the hospital!
Speaking of Chad, this has been his schedule lately: works M-F, has classes M and W from 6-9, has Young Men's on Tuesdays then volleyball, basketball on Thursdays, campouts once a month on the weekend, and a YM's project all day Saturday 3 weeks in March as well as classes from 9-4 two Saturdays in February. Sundays are packed with meetings (a few weeks ago he was gone from 8:45-7:00) and other meetings throughout the week! The poor guy is looking forward to this new baby as a chance to get a break!! We'll see how that goes! We all know how difficult Bri was as a baby. Thank heavens she's a great toddler!
And, just in case you're hoping for a picture of my belly I haven't worked up the guts yet because I'm afraid you'll agree with the random strangers that I am huge!!! Maybe I'll get a good pic and send it soon!
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I feel your pain. I'm one of the lucky pregnant women that gets lots of "you're HUGE!" comments as well. And I never had the guts to come back with a smart remark either. But in my head I always did. Someone is going to have to start standing up for big pregnant women so people start getting a clue. :) From my experience, the only thing I tell pregnant women is, "you look great!" Because they always need to hear it. (at least I did!)
I feel like we have had carbon copies of the feelings and reactions from people in our pregnancies. I feel your pain as you well know and know that time will still travel like at snail pace. But one day you will wake up and realize that it is the same month that you are supposed to deliver. I have 28 more days. I can't believe it. I am there for you. We need to form a support group. Maybe we can make t shirts saying, If you can't say anything nice about my growing belly, then look the other direction!
You are not huge, and I don't need a picture to say so because I see the real thing. And I bet I know the lady in Lowe's. She did the same thing to me...TWICE! She was the only stranger to touch my belly my whole pregnancy. She said something about my baby giving her luck... I was thinking, "Yeah, you're going to need more than luck if you don't stop touching me!!!"
Oh I feel your pain. I am finally far enough that it's okay for people to think I'm huge but still--why say something like that! I've been hearing it for a few months now and it never sounds okay or nice to me. I wonder if we looked similar in size at the same weeks because we're both small. Anyway, I hope your back feels better and you don't have to endure it for 10 more weeks!
Wow. I'm really amazed that people say stuff like that! I must get really lucky. I haven't had any comments quite that brash, or stranger-tummy-rubs. Of course, I'm only getting bigger from here, so we'll see if I have any quotables to share later!
Oh, I'm sorry your back hurts so much! Ouch! My back isn't that bad, I'm just starting to get that overall squished feeling (8 weeks! I'd love it if she came early in 6 weeks, but I have no hopes of that). Hope it goes by quickly for both of us!
People just don't think. I had someone suggest that when someone touches your belly you should touch theirs back.
Anyhow, best of luck with the pregnancy. I took the test that tells you if you might go into labor in the next two weeks when I was 28 weeks pregnant. I tested positive. It was pretty scary, needless to say I didn't go into labor. Carson came right at 37 weeks. If you test positive don't panic; just take precautions.
Sorry you're getting comments--and the belly rubbing is crazy--I can't stand it either, unless I know the person really well, and even then, in public, its wierd.
It is never fun to be told you are huge. Sorry. I found that I got that alot more when we moved out of Utah, and from older people. I think that they don't have a filter.
Felt your pain -- sorry to say I share your prego genes. No fun! Hope your back gets better!!!
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